I am amazed how flooded I am with emails every week from people who openly admit they’ll never see me.

It’s this bizarre phenomenon; someone will take time to write long sweeping fantasies, sharing their thoughts and penning down their deepest secrets for my eyes only,  to disappointingly conclude with something like  “unfortunately, I will never be able to make this a reality” or “I’m afraid I’ll never have the courage to go through with this”.

It’s gotten to the point where if I receive a letter from someone new and it happens to be longer than a couple of paragraphs – I scan to the bottom of the page first to make sure those dreaded phrases haven’t been uttered. Really, it’s that frequent and it’s almost always a letdown because the fantasies are usually quite engaging!

While I’m well aware that even talking about your kinks can be therapeutic, there’s much more to be had in acting them out, whether you have the courage or not. I’ve held plenty of appointments where my partner would be literally – visibly – shaking before we began. Sure enough when the reality sets in that they’re FINALLY letting themselves be in this moment, their nerves settle and off we go, pushing boundaries and expanding their horizons like a seasoned veteran.

I also hope you curious pets understand that I cannot give you courage nor can I lure you MORE than I am with my website, ads, board participation, Twitter feed and blog. I just don’t have time for that type of frequent individual encouragement.  Sometimes, you just have to make the leap to try something new without over thinking it, allow yourself a moment of spontaneity.

It is my FIRM belief that every Domme, unless she specifically states otherwise, will always listen attentively to the fantasies of her partner and with her experience, she will give him a session combining those elements that will knock his socks off. So boys, please spare me the hesitations. If you’re too nervous to see me other any other Mistress, we understand, but save your emails for the woman you ARE comfortable visiting.

However, if you’ve worked up the muster to write me to begin with, you need to admit that there’s a piece of you that’s ready to move forward. I won’t push you over the cliff into my world, but when you’re ready, my hand will be there to take yours and guide you into a world you clearly need to know more about.