Dear Victoria,
I came across your website and noticed you offer pegging and plugging. I started escorting back in February and a few guys have asked me if I could give them fetish play, especially strap on. I’m keen to try it out, but I don’t know how to handle the mess! Is there any way around that or am I taking a gamble each time I say yes?
Respectfully,
XXXXX
Dear XXXXX,
I admit, I feel it’s rude to copy your email without permission, but this is a good question – a damn good one and after many years, I’m going to bite the bullet and get a little graphic with you for the sake of education.
So, first of all my new lady friend, congratulations on your decision to give this a go! I assume you’ll be reading up on proper tips and techniques, as well as various sanitation practices so you’re well versed on the how to’s as well as how to not make a mess! Perhaps that’ll be my next post, but either way, please, PLEASE educate yourself and use more than one resource to do so! Also, don’t hesitate to practice heavily on anyone in your personal life or a non-paying client. Practice makes perfect you know!
Keeping clean and preparing for anal penetration does take a bit of time and patience. If someone is wanting a strap on, you must make it clear to them WELL IN ADVANCE that they’re going to need to take a few steps beyond a shower and a movement. Anyone who says “Oh yes, I’ve prepared, I showered an hour ago” is NOT ready for deep, invasive penetration. They’re just not – no matter how thorough the shower might have been.
My favorite method of prep is an enema several hours ahead of time. You can buy a disposable Fleet brand enema for $2 at any drug store. These do contain saline so if your visitor is concerned with using chemicals, tell him or her that they can dump out the fluid and fill the container with water before moving forward.
You can also have them buy one of those fancy schamcy at home enema kits ($10-$30 pic below) but they might be a little intimidating or inconvenient for a first timer. Try to steer them towards the easier option at first with the Fleet style until they’ve done this at least once.
Timing is everything you know, so have them do this AT LEAST 2 hours prior to coming over. If you hear nothing else I’m saying to you, register that last statement. At least 2 hours – I’m serious!!!! As someone who’s been on the wrong end of a not-fully-expelled-enema, I can attest that you NEVER want to have them do this right before or during the session. Once the enema water hits body temperature it can be very hard to tell if you’ve gotten it all out of your system and you don’t want any leakage to occur once you get going. Time is the only thing to ensure proper expulsion has happened.
I hear there are also various drinks and pills you can take, but again, that will only get the system flushed – not cleansed and your visitor may find themselves in the awkward position of trying to stay near to a bathroom, for who knows how long, as the various pills/drinks begin to work.
Enemas will always win in my book: they’re safe, reliable, cheap and easy.
Now, let me also give you a bit of uncommon advice.
Practice an assertive but gentle way to direct this information to your client. Practice saying it like a doctor: clinical, non judgmental, not at all taken back and informative. Seriously. Make sure your FIRM when conveying it so he doesn’t assume it’s optional.
Also, prepare yourself for gentle ways to say ‘no’ if you decide to offer anal and someone asks you for it on the spot without doing the necessary prep work… unless you are up for a bit of potential mess.
Lastly, imagine the worst case scenario (pulling out a dirty dildo during a scene) and mentally work through how you’ll handle the situation without embarrassing your client. If you do anal play – it WILL at some point happen. It just will – consider it an occupational hazard.
Have a plan on how you’ll gracefully dismiss yourself to the bathroom to rid yourself of the evidence before continuing on.
Lastly, have condoms, gloves, quality lube, chemical free toys and a quality strap on. Preferably something nonporous and washable.
Happy Pegging!
As someone who has given himself an enema twice a week for over a month now I think I can say a few things about this from the other side. These are my experiences but I expect that they will be common. I was going to say more but it was just too much info for someone just getting into pegging. But the most important bits are:
* Waiting for two hours to allow the enema to finish its working is a minimum time. Most of the effects will happen right away, but your pets will almost certainly have to go #2 again once or twice. Often not much will happen but they will need to go which doesn’t sound fun in the middle of a session.
* Personally I’d want to wait a minimum of four hours before seeing Mistress Victoria and that’s after the ten or so enemas that it took me to fully flush my system out. Before that happened I was going #2 upwards of six times in six hours or so.
* Your pets are not going to know if they are clean or even whether the effects of the enema are complete. But if they follow the directions and it’s been over four hours or a few hours since their last #2 they should be good to go.
From the peg-ee’s point-of-view, here are some things I’ve found very helpful:
– If you have the luxury of planning ahead several days, alter your diet to mostly fruit/vegetables/juices, to flush most things out of your system. Now is not the time to be a hero and try to eat that 72 ounce Porterhouse, while drinking a bottle of wine and having the cheese plate for dessert… Elsewise, consider Senna or something similar the night before, but be aware of the possible cramping/discomfort side effects, and don’t rely on this method too often, far better to approach this with diet IMO.
– Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.
– Some hours before, use an enema as M. Rage suggests. The delay is important not only to avoid some of the enema leaking out, but also to allow your mucus layer to recover from the enema, and for any micro-irritation of the tissues from the enema to subside. Do take care to lubricate the nozzle well, and don’t use overly-irritating chemicals in the enema. With some experience, you may be able to get away with a simple anal douche of water (don’t get clever and use soapy water….) using something like the StreemMaster:
http://stockroom.com/StreemMaster-Mini-Douche–P4108.aspx
– Bear in mind that no matter how careful you are, sometimes Nature conspires against you, and there will be some messiness now and then. Deal with it, and soldier on, it’s not the end of the world 🙂
Extremely informative!! Thank you!
I am very excited about the new interest called pegging and I have decided that I want to be pegged. But my wife wouldn’t understand my desire lay on a bed while a woman, wearing a dildo was fucking my ass.
I want that. But I am not gay. I don’t want guys but I do want this. If only she would go visit someone far away and I had time to myself, I could arrange to be fucked.
But I fear that I may never get the chance without hurting my wife and then being ostracized by her family.
I’m open to suggestions
I am about to entire into a marriage with a Dominatrix. I am a virgin male, in that I have never been entered or whipped. The latter I am not worried about, but the former has given me cause for concern. I have a Domme who gave birth to me, in that she took me from being about as ignorant as you can get, and opened a heretofore hidden door in me. I cannot tell you how much this information has helped me. My Mistress is also very, very patient. In fine: I am soon to have my first session and thanks for the help. I was a medic for 4 of my years in the military, and I absolutely recommend an enema beforehand. I know what is up in a persons colon, having had to deal with it up front and personal. Anyhow, thanks so much, and I will relay all this to my Domme…and wish us the best for two people in love and in agreement….Fr. John