Dear Victoria,

I came across your website and noticed you offer pegging and plugging. I started escorting back in February and a few guys have asked me if I could give them fetish play, especially strap on. I’m keen to try it out, but I don’t know how to handle the mess! Is there any way around that or am I taking a gamble each time I say yes?

Respectfully,

XXXXX

 

 

Dear XXXXX,

 

I admit, I feel it’s rude to copy your email without permission, but this is a good question – a damn good one and after many years, I’m going to bite the bullet and get a little graphic with you for the sake of education.

 

So, first of all my new lady friend, congratulations on your decision to give this a go! I assume you’ll be reading up on proper tips and techniques, as well as various sanitation practices so you’re well versed on the how to’s as well as how to not make a mess! Perhaps that’ll be my next post, but either way, please, PLEASE educate yourself and use more than one resource to do so! Also, don’t hesitate to practice heavily on anyone in your personal life or a non-paying client. Practice makes perfect you know!

Keeping clean and preparing for anal penetration does take a bit of time and patience. If someone is wanting a strap on, you must make it clear to them WELL IN ADVANCE that they’re going to need to take a few steps beyond a shower and a movement. Anyone who says “Oh yes, I’ve prepared, I showered an hour ago” is NOT ready for deep, invasive penetration. They’re just not – no matter how thorough the shower might have been.

 

My favorite method of prep is an enema several hours ahead of time. You can buy a disposable Fleet brand enema for $2 at any drug store. These do contain saline so if your visitor is concerned with using chemicals, tell him or her that they can dump out the fluid and fill the container with water before moving forward.

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You can also have them buy one of those fancy schamcy at home enema kits ($10-$30 pic below) but they might be a little intimidating or inconvenient for a first timer. Try to steer them towards the easier option at first with the Fleet style until they’ve done this at least once.

 

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Timing is everything you know, so have them do this AT LEAST 2 hours prior to coming over. If you hear nothing else I’m saying to you, register that last statement. At least 2 hours – I’m serious!!!! As someone who’s been on the wrong end of a not-fully-expelled-enema, I can attest that you NEVER want to have them do this right before or during the session. Once the enema water hits body temperature it can be very hard to tell if you’ve gotten it all out of your system and you don’t want any leakage to occur once you get going. Time is the only thing to ensure proper expulsion has happened.

 

I hear there are also various drinks and pills you can take, but again, that will only get the system flushed – not cleansed and your visitor may find themselves in the awkward position of trying to stay near to a bathroom, for who knows how long, as the various pills/drinks begin to work.

 

Enemas will always win in my book: they’re safe, reliable, cheap and easy.

 

Now, let me also give you a bit of uncommon advice.

Practice an assertive but gentle way to direct this information to your client. Practice saying it like a doctor: clinical, non judgmental, not at all taken back and informative. Seriously. Make sure your FIRM when conveying it so he doesn’t assume it’s optional.

Also, prepare yourself for gentle ways to say ‘no’ if you decide to offer anal and someone asks you for it on the spot without doing the necessary prep work… unless you are up for a bit of potential mess.

Lastly, imagine the worst case scenario (pulling out a dirty dildo during a scene) and mentally work through how you’ll handle the situation without embarrassing your client. If you do anal play – it WILL at some point happen. It just will – consider it an occupational hazard.

Have a plan on how you’ll gracefully dismiss yourself to the bathroom to rid yourself of the evidence before continuing on.

Lastly, have condoms, gloves, quality lube, chemical free toys and a quality strap on. Preferably something nonporous and washable.

 

Happy Pegging!