“I’m still working up the courage to see you….”
I can’t be alone here, but I get this comment daily… multiple times daily on occasion, and it’s one I still can’t seem to overcome despite everything I post to present myself in a warm and welcoming light.
The ‘plight’ of the Pro Domme is that visually, what draws our potential visitors in is the look for a hard core, no mercy woman who’s going to put you in your place: then punish you severely…swiftly…and without mercy. It’s what most people think of when the word Dominatrix comes to mind. Go ahead, think of any fictitious Dominatrix and let’s explore what you draw up.
She was in something shiny, wasn’t she? Likely holding a whip with some poor submissive tied down to the floor so he had no choice but to prostrate himself before her? Of course it was…. simply put, a pretty woman with a hard edge. That’s what your primal self craves, but what your logical side is likely afraid of.
It’s taken most of my career to find some sort of balance between portraying the fantasy that draws someone to really consider seeing me, but being the approachable woman that gives them the confidence and reassurance they can actually survive a session with me. Each time I hear that painful sentence at the end of a call or email, “I’m working up the courage to see you”, I just want to stop the communication and ask point blank if the suitor knows anything about ME at all, my writings, reviews and so on, or are the judging me against the fictions and ferocious Amazon their mind’s eye has conjured up to represent all Dommes everywhere.
Frustrating though it may be, I sympathize with these men. I do.
You have a longing to experience something unusual, perhaps profound and completely out of the ordinary. You’re only option may be to lay your trust in a woman you’ve never met, who will tie you down, strap you in and use an arsenal of toys to bring you to a point of enlightenment. That can be terrifying. Were I to be in that scenario, you better believe I’d want to develop a rapport with this woman before I’m going to let her put me in a disadvantaged position….but in most cases, that’s not really an option for most men.
Nothing will ever fully prepare you for your first time with a Professional, or to return to kink if you’ve been away for a while. But once you’re over that first hill, I promise that you’ll look back with a grin and wonder why you waited so long.
Don’t be afraid to explore what’s out there and don’t think that if you repress your urges long enough they’ll obediently go away: they won’t.
With a little care, preparation and research, you could be just a phone call away from having the experience of a lifetime; why on earth would you allow a little hesitation rob you of that?
