A couple of weeks back, you’ll likely have noticed a posting I made, where I felt my life had come to a point where I have both the time and room in my life for one more personal slave…
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If you missed it: Here you go!
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It’s been a roller coaster of a time, meeting new and curious people and reconnecting (or connecting deeper) with visitors I never would have imagined to consider such a role. It’s put a very interesting spin on things, and to be honest, has made a lot of my appointments take a deeper and even more meaningful turn as I explore more of a real life connection with people who might very well become a more regular fixture in my life. I don’t think I’ve ever probed kink in such a way, at least not deliberately, and for me (as well as many of you, I’m sure), it’s likely been a very immersive and eye opening experience.
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That said, there’s a few things I must have left out from my posting, or perhaps not highlighted it enough for it to have really registered thoroughly. I’m sure the excitement felt by anyone that entry really spoke to likely made some of the details a bit fuzzy – so I’ll just take a moment here to expand and remake a few important notes that I’d really like to point out.
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The most important thing is that I am in NO rush to find the *right* person.
Like any person searching for some form of a life partner, I know I’ll come across many lovely suitors.
Some will want it more than others, some dynamics will mesh more than others and some still will ultimately reveal that we are better off with our preestablished pro/client relationship. While I won’t fall into this situation with everyone who hopes for it, that deeper intimacy has still been created. I’d hope that anyone who doesn’t find themselves with my collar does not walk away hurt or with a sense of rejection. There are many reasons why someone might not be the perfect fit for me (or me for them) but that won’t detract from our ability to continuing enjoying each other on a professional basis – and one that is more solid, devoted and secure than ever. I will wait as long as it takes for the *right* person – and I’m prepared to wait indefinitely.
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It’s probably also good for me to note right here and now, that while I am becoming more close to you, or getting to know you better, please maintain a sense of my personal boundaries. Hugs and a peck on the cheek are entirely welcome when we’re saying hello or goodbye, but do not attempt to touch, grab, group, kiss, molest or put your hands on me in any other way unless I’ve given permission. I know it can be hard, especially in very intense and personal scenes, but aside from what I do to you in a BDSM context – I don’t want to imply that personal physical intimacy beyond what I offer as a professional is now on the table.
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You may ask for permission, such as to worship my feet or legs, hold my hand or take a nice warm embrace mid scene – and I’ll always be an incurable tease (and some know precisely what I’m talking about here), but otherwise, it is vital that my personal boundaries remain respected. Please do not try to pull me in for kisses, or think that down the line I will be a sexual partner. I will not. I’d rather define that line now and not while we’re in the heat of a connective scene.
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This, I might not have mentioned earlier, but if you’d like to take our courtship outside the dungeon, I’m up for that! I play out of the dungeon just as often as in, though my tribute will still apply, we are not simply limited to my play space. If you’d like to go to dinner, a show a walk on the waterfront or really any other type of excursion – we absolutely can and in fact, it might give us a better sense of one another before we head back to the studio to play.
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Last but not least, I’ve started offering cam and phone sessions again beginning this week. I’m hoping this takes some of the sting out of things for those who can’t quite make it for face to face encounters as often as they’d like. In general, I like having an expansive list of ways to entwine with people and this is something I’ve meant to do for a while. Like any other date, these do need to be scheduled in advance, but it will definitely help ease the gap in between our in person meetings.
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With all of that said, I would love to wrap this up by sharing just how touched I am by the warm response to my post.
I’ve had such an unexpected mix of interest and positive energy from those who are simply happy to see me expanding my personal life. You lovely people are always so wonderful and devoted – it always reaffirms the simple fact that I could not have chosen a better path or audience to share my life with; even if I can’t collar you all, you all mean the absolute world to me.
