Becoming the Private Property of a Professional Dominant


I have a feeling that I will immediately regret this post once it goes live. As hard as I try to keep my personal and professional proclivities separate, especially in a wide scale forum like this, sometimes I just can’t help myself. My work and I are often one in the same, especially in a business where your commodity is yourself!

So, I received an email the other day from a gentle young man who wondered if I ever find some of my clients to be ‘personal slave’ worthy. His words, not mine!

It was *almost* charming in the way he asked, clearly hoping that without having met me, he and I might one day have this glorious future as a proud Mistress and her obedient pet. Charming, but not something I could answer to someone I’ve never met. The question though, is a good one!

Do I ever take my clients on to be personal slaves?

First, before I get carried away, let me just knock out that term….I loathe the term slave when used too casually.

The idea of slavery is most often a complete fantasy. When compared to someone who truly subscribes to the lifestyle, the flippant use of the word tarnishes the image of that rare someone who really wants to be 100% subject to the whims of another.  When I do assign terms, I don’t do so lightly. Now, the endearment of personal submissive or personal pet – yes! But I get what he meant in his question.

Do I ever find someone so compelling, so fit to match my needs as a Top, that I allow them to become more than an afternoon guest in my dungeon?

At the risk of outing myself, yes, yes I do.  It does NOT happen often, but it has happened.

There comes a certain point in a ladies career where most of her business is made up of  regular visitors. Naturally, when you see the same faces week after week, you can’t help but take things a bit more personally than if it were a rotation of strangers. Their needs start to fluctuate with mine, scenes become a real give and take of fantasy ideas and my personal influence becomes more and more substantial in their everyday lives. Now, this isn’t the case with EVERY regular visitor, especially since many aren’t submissive at all or they like to keep their kink as just a separate fraction of their lives….but it still gets to be more personal.

There’s a part of me as a lifestyle Mistress that causes me to see potential in a particular relationship and I want to see what comes of it. Fortunately, I do have the safety in keeping this on a professional level (as in we will always arrange time by scheduled date, there will always be a tribute and you will always have complete confidentiality) not just for my privacy but for that of my client as well. I almost never broach the subject…but sometimes, it just sort of happens. (right, glory holes?)

In short, my meek emailer, I do see budding relationships with many a guest, but where those relationships go is the direct result of a long term interaction…it has never happened because someone simply asked.

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5 Thoughts to “Becoming the Private Property of a Professional Dominant”

  1. Othello

    Bravissimo! As always you’ve managed to convey your thoughts on a delicate topic without alienating your adoring subjects.

  2. It did happen with me. And I didn’t ask for it, though I am very glad she saw enough potential in me to make me her personal slave.

    I would like to emphasize that Mistress Victoria means exactly what she says. If Mistress Victoria does eventually decide to take you or anyone else as a personal slave then that is exactly what she will expect: that you are her property. That doesn’t come natural even to someone who is very submissive, but she is more than capable of teaching a willing student how to think and act as her slave.

    Glory Holes

  3. And, wow, what a picture!

  4. This is both a diplomatic and brave answer to a question that probably comes up far more than it should! Actually when clients pose this, it really puts the ProDomme in an awkward situation… don’t want to hurt the client’s feelings but yet need to stress the boundaries that a pro-client relationship implies.

    That said, what a pro does in her personal life is her business, and if she is so inclined, then I (as a client) would let her make that call and initiate discussion if appropriate to both parties’ situations.

    As a longtime client myself, I saw the same pro exclusively for around 10 years. And yeah, there were times when my feelings wandered into that domain and I had to remind myself that I knew what the deal was when I entered into a client relationship. I think because I didn’t push it, I did get some “perks” that perhaps I wouldn’t have otherwise… such as invites to (lifestyle) private play parties (off the clock) and so on. I have a feeling if I had been pushy asking about personal roles and whatnot, I’d have worked myself down the priority list!

  5. […] had a client whom she took as a personal slave. Mistress Victoria (somewhat hesitantly) placed her reply on her blog. We’ve talked about what it means to be her personal slave of course so nothing […]

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